From the moment we open our eyes into this world. Expectations are placed onto us, whether real or perceived.
They vary as we grow up and mature with age. But the single most pressured question we seem to carry for most of our young and even middle age life is "What are you going to be when you grow up"?.
This question itself seems very innocent, which in its simple form it is. However, it's what can make or break so many of us. It follows us around day by day, coffee by coffee, dream by dream.
Social norm by social norm.
Society has pushed us to believe that we should know what we want to be when we grow up.
All through our schooling years, we are pushed to find that one thing, that career path that we are supposed to be aspiring to.
With every class we pick, with every hour we study, all supposedly working towards one goal.
Everyone's goal may be different and it's any wonder we feel so helpless and lost trying to obtain this one thing.
Now don't get me wrong, there is a small percentage of people who really do "know what they want" and just go through schooling from day one to the end with the degree in sigh and then later, in hand.
We've all seen it, people go on to be Lawyers, Doctors, etc. Usually these assumed self assured people appear to have it all together. But alot of the time their "choices" in their career have actually come from other pressures which are not directly society.
They've come from their family. It's the classic tale. "Oh yeah my Father was a lawyer and so was his Father" - and so the chain continues.
I'm not here beating up on those career oriented individuals who have it all "figured out". I'm just wanting to draw a clear point. That we have every single pressure from every angle
to have our shit sorted out but without the single biggest and most important consideration of all.
What will make us happy?
Will the angst of years of study in high school followed by potentially 3-7 years of being broke, exhausted and confused then pay off once we have the piece of paper that is supposed to define us? This paper is apparently our standing and acceptance into society.
It doesn't matter if we become a high functioning alcoholic/drug addicted barrister.. Because shit, that's accepted... You're a Barrister.
See what is so wrong with that social norm? If we are perceived to be educated we seem to be cut the slack which our "poor" uneducated counterparts are not given the blessing.
Heaven forbid they know something about happiness though, because we will continue to berate them for not being one of the elite educated/or know what they are doing boys clubs.
At the end of the day, I know what I want "to be when I grow up" - HAPPY.